Tuesday, November 27, 2012
The internet offers a world of opportunities. People of all ages are posting video from mobile devices, building online profiles, texting each other from their mobile devices, creating alter egos in the form of online avatars, connecting with friends online they donít see regularly in person, sending photos to friends, and broadcasting what they are doing to hundreds of people.
These ways of socializing and communicating can be fulfilling, and yet, they come with certain risks:
1) Inappropriate conduct
The online world can feel anonymous. Kids sometimes forget they are still accountable for their actions.
2) Inappropriate contact
Some people online have bad intentions, including bullies, predators, hackers, and scammers.
3) Inappropriate content
You may be concerned that your kids could find pornography, violence, or hate speech online.
You can reduce these risks by talking to your kids about how they communicate-online and off-and encouraging them to engage in conduct they can be proud of.
What is the best way to protect your kids online? Talk to them. Research suggests that when children want information, most rely on their parents.
Not sure where to begin? Consider the following:
After all, even toddlers see their parents use all kinds of devices. As soon as your child is using a computer, a cell phone or any mobile device, itís time to talk to them about online behavior, safety, and security. As a parent, you have the opportunity to talk to your kid about whatís important before anyone else does.
CREATE AN HONEST, OPEN ENVIRONMENT
Kids look to their parents to help guide them. Be supportive and positive. Listening and taking their feelings into account helps keep conversation afloat. You may not have all the answers, and being honest about that can go a long way.
Even if your kids are comfortable approaching you, donít wait for them to start the conversation. Use everyday opportunities to talk to your kids about being online. For instance, a TV program featuring a teen online or using a cell phone can tee up a discussion about what to do-or not-in similar circumstances. News stories about internet scams or cyberbullying, for example, also can help start a conversation with kids about their experiences and your expectations.
COMMUNICATE YOUR VALUES
Be upfront about your values and how they apply in an online context. Communicating your values clearly can help your kids make smarter and more thoughtful decisions when they face tricky situations.
Resist the urge to rush through conversations with your kids. Most kids need to hear information repeated, in small doses, for it to sink in. If you keep talking with your kids, your patience and persistence will pay off in the long run. Work hard to keep the lines of communication open, even if you learn your kid has done something online you find inappropriate.
Adapted from:† NET CETERA: Chatting with Kids about Being Online//www.onguardonline.gov
Information provided by the Dorchester Childrenís Center